Re: columbine

Thor Cameron (my_colours@hotmail.com)
Tue, 27 Apr 1999 16:02:13 -0700 (PDT)

During my years as a therapist, I worked with emotionally disturbed 
teenagers.  I found that, hands down, no matter what behaviors or 
crimes the child was displaying, it all came down to the parents.
Actually, that's Holden's problem.  After they lost Allie, they were 
too reeled by grief to be good parents, and Holden is left lost.  They 
are bad parents out of grief.  I know, I grew up the same way after my 
brother's suicide.
As a therapist, I saw bad parenting out of malice or indifference.  It 
is bizarre and beyond my ability to understand, no matter how I tried.
Don't blame society.  Find out why their parents abdicated their duty.

Thor


>In a message dated 4/27/99 1:55:05 AM Eastern Daylight Time, 
>Kidneyboy@aol.com writes:
>
><< The picture made me wonder how much I should hate the two kids 
> who committed this senseless act of violence compared to how much I 
should 
> hate the society that drove them to it?  
>  >>
>
>I tend to think along the same lines.  Since as I stated before, I 
had daily 
>contact with one of the killers in my middle school years (he was a 
normal 
>boy) I find it hard not to be at least a little upset with society 
that 
>pushed him into believing this was a good thing to do and to 
ultimatley 
>commit suicide.  I'm not defending what these boys did.  It was 
awful, 
>horrible...evil.  But, I just can't help but be bothered by how he 
turned 
>from a normal happy person to what he ended up being.  That's the 
most 
>disturbing part of the whole situation to me.  I think people should 
stop 
>looking at just the political side of this event.  Looking to gun 
laws, metal 
>detectors, and uniforms to prevent tragedies like this and totally 
forgetting 
>about the most important part...why these boys felt this way and the 
reason 
>they planned out killing people for a year.  
>
>Morgan


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