During my years as a therapist, I worked with emotionally disturbed teenagers. I found that, hands down, no matter what behaviors or crimes the child was displaying, it all came down to the parents. Actually, that's Holden's problem. After they lost Allie, they were too reeled by grief to be good parents, and Holden is left lost. They are bad parents out of grief. I know, I grew up the same way after my brother's suicide. As a therapist, I saw bad parenting out of malice or indifference. It is bizarre and beyond my ability to understand, no matter how I tried. Don't blame society. Find out why their parents abdicated their duty. Thor >In a message dated 4/27/99 1:55:05 AM Eastern Daylight Time, >Kidneyboy@aol.com writes: > ><< The picture made me wonder how much I should hate the two kids > who committed this senseless act of violence compared to how much I should > hate the society that drove them to it? > >> > >I tend to think along the same lines. Since as I stated before, I had daily >contact with one of the killers in my middle school years (he was a normal >boy) I find it hard not to be at least a little upset with society that >pushed him into believing this was a good thing to do and to ultimatley >commit suicide. I'm not defending what these boys did. It was awful, >horrible...evil. But, I just can't help but be bothered by how he turned >from a normal happy person to what he ended up being. That's the most >disturbing part of the whole situation to me. I think people should stop >looking at just the political side of this event. Looking to gun laws, metal >detectors, and uniforms to prevent tragedies like this and totally forgetting >about the most important part...why these boys felt this way and the reason >they planned out killing people for a year. > >Morgan _______________________________________________________________ Get Free Email and Do More On The Web. Visit http://www.msn.com