Re: Me and my macaroni dream is so unreal
AntiUtopia@aol.com
Mon, 09 Aug 1999 16:11:10 -0400 (EDT)
In a message dated 8/9/99 5:29:15 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
kennedyp@toronto.cbc.ca writes:
<< I hate to jump in here, to add my 2 cents worth (...not quite qualifying
for
the pensioner's discount yet) from the advanced age of 48 (with a 25th
wedding anniversary coming up on 9/9/99!), but I have to say I'm with Carl
ALL THE WAY on this one....
If a guy can't dream at the age of 16, he'll INEVITABLY end up in the
poisonous 'reality' of certain sophisticated twenty-somethings I've met....
Cheers,
Paul
>>
There's really nothing "poisonous" about having realistic expectations for
relationships, Paul. About not "making someone your religion," but having a
healthy sense of self OUTSIDE the relationship then bringing that into it --
thus being a giving agent in the relationship instead of needy and dependent.
Or about being "best friends" with your mate first, THEN getting romantic.
But I see more of what Carl meant as of his second post and I like what he's
shooting for :)
Jim
PS I'm older than twentysomething, have been married seventeen years myself
and have four children, the oldest of which is 15. Not to mention some
experience in marriage counseling...