In a message dated 12/29/99 10:29:16 PM Eastern Standard Time, erespess@nji.com writes: << Very true. I've certainly had that experience, and it meant worlds to me. I did not mean that it can only go in one direction. >> Right. Now...think about how that may apply to what I said :) Seriously, what I was trying to do originally was Describe a situation, not advocate one. In relationships we are all looking for something, expecting something, and had better be up to giving something too. What it really comes down to is finding someone who wants what you're willing to give, and gives what you need to get. There's no use complaining about another person's expectations when you have your own and expect them to be met.... that's what relatinships are For :) Jim