Subject: Re: I am a stereotype, BUT
From: MISTY A SAMPSON (mistyamber@juno.com)
Date: Wed Feb 26 1997 - 20:49:30 GMT
On Tue, 25 Feb 1997 15:26:04 -0800 Malcolm Lawrence
<Malcolm@wolfenet.com> writes:
>I am a fully-fledged stereotype, BUT...I'm not gay=20
>
>I cross my legs at both the knee and the ankle
>
>I can have a very high pitched voice when excited
>
>I have a sense of style, and anyone with any awareness of style learns
>=
>to appreciate women's fashions because they are much more
>stylistically =
>appealing than most men's fashions. Doesn't mean one wants to WEAR =
>women's clothes.
>
>I have not seen the Disney "Beauty and the Beast" (which I assume is
>the =
>one we're referring to) once, let alone eight times, but the Jean =
>Cocteau version I've probably seen eight times. It's a masterpiece of
>=
>surrealism and the myth is timeless (As Ken Kesey said when I saw him
>=
>speak a few years ago: When asked if he'd seen any movies lately he =
>replied: "I just saw "Beauty & The Beast" with my grandson. You know =
>what that movie's about? Temper. Being able to control your temper."
>In =
>this culture any film or cultural artifact which deals with =
>relationships rather than explosions is considered a "chick flick"
>which =
>gives you some sense how emotionally primitive most males in our
>culture =
>insist on remaining. Kill or be killed is NOT a healthy view of =
>lifestyles. Given a choice between Arnold Schwarzennegger and Emma =
>Thompson, I'd take Emma hands down. Funny how a stereotypical sign of
>=
>being a heterosexual male in our society is to want to spend time with
>=
>OTHER men, rather than the complimentary sex, or if one IS to spend
>time =
>with the complimentary sex it is supposed to be strictly FOR sex.
>
>I have always had a lot of gay friends growing up=20
>
>I have a very developed aesthetic sense and appreciation of beauty=20
>
>I love showtunes
>
>I have slept in the same bed as another male
>
>I am as affectionate towards males as I am towards females and when =
>possible try to do things for my male friends to let them know how
>much =
>I like them. "Being upset that his male roommate--whose laundry he =
>does--moved out without leaving a note, etc." Uh, hello? Ever heard of
>=
>common courtesy? Caring, perhaps? Worry? Trying to develop a =
>relationship that is more than just a casual exchange of belching, =
>farting and lies about sexual prowess? =20
>
>If one didn't know me and was only aware of casual observances they =
>would infer that I was gay, but I have never had an erotic thought
>about =
>another male in my life. I've never questioned my heterosexuality even
>=
>though others who didn't know me always tried to insist that I was
>gay. =
>I like to think I'm a gentleman (a concept this culture seems to have
>=
>discounted) and I've often thought I have the heart of a little girl =
>because it breaks very easily and I've consciously tried to develop my
>=
>sensitivity over the course of my life, but this has not got one iota
>to =
>deal with my sexuality at all. I believe the most recent term is =
>psychological hermaphrodite. Just because I can be tender and
>vulnerable =
>doesn't mean I can't be tough and resilient should the situation call
>=
>for it. If anything homophobia and the stereotyping of feminine =
>characteristics in males cuts to the very heart of our capitalistic =
>system which is why it's been such a taboo for so long. If your =
>competition in the job marketplace is other males, why should you feel
>=
>sensitive about them? Wouldn't that be detrimental to your killer =
>instinct of getting a job and bringing bacon home? To be affectionate
>=
>towards another male (the logical potential extension being ALL males)
>=
>denies the objectification of them as merely competitors in the rat =
>race. That's a very potent shift of attitude that could bring
>capitalism =
>to it's knees. THAT is why the myth of Jesus was so (is so)
>detrimental =
>to Western civilization.=20
>
>Malcolm
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"The elements so mixed in him, they'd look upon him and say, this was/is
a man..."
Stealing a little Shakespeare quote there. It saddens me that the term
"gay" is so used so loosely today. (and hey, that quote had meaning.
Mr. Malcolm is quite a mixture of an excellent person, not that I know
very many or should be able to judge)...I have several friends (male)
that those who are fearing their own sexuality deem gay. That's just my
opinion.
Misty...
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