Subject: RE: My So Called Life & Salinger
From: Malcolm Lawrence (Malcolm@wolfenet.com)
Date: Thu May 08 1997 - 14:47:36 GMT
>>She's lost her innocence (nothing at all to do with
>>sexuality, not that kind of losing one's innocence, which I daresay if
>>anything actually helps you get it back)
>i beg to differ. sex has been the dominant cause of lost innocence in my
life
>and in many of the people i know. the awakening sex drive presents you
with >a hunger that you feel a need to satisfy. sex is the doorway into
adulthood.
>once you've opened it, it's damned hard to get it shut. why do you think
>holden never had sex, even with the hooker?--matt
I guess I was lucky then, or rewarded. I didn't have sex until I was 17 and
once I did it was only with people I knew well, therefore I never felt as
if I was losing anything, or being too vulnerable too early, when in fact I
was gaining a whole other perspective of a person I already knew. When I
was a teenager the peer pressure was so great that I simply decided to wait
until the situation was comfortable and relaxed rather than deal with the
pressure. I think a lot of it has to do with one's concept of
self-identity. Until you're secure with who you are you're only going to
see it as an act where you lose something rather than share/gain something.
This culture's attitude behind the act itself only underlines the fact that
it is something which should either be used as a reward or a weapon which
goes STRAIGHT back to the Puritans at the speed of light. No progress
there. Will it ever be rightfully realigned with love in this culture? It's
up to us. Hopefully now that the stigma is off of masturbation it'll free
up a lot of energy previously dedicated to manipulation.
I wouldn't say sex is the doorway to adulthood. Sex is the doorway away
from the confines of the family (which is the doorway to adulthood), and
love brings you back to the family.
Malcolm
-
To remove yourself from the bananafish list, send the command:
unsubscribe bananafish
in the body of a message to "Majordomo@mass-usr.com".
This archive was generated by hypermail 2b25 : Mon Oct 09 2000 - 15:01:33 GMT