Paula, Perhaps you and your peers might consider that you are the ones who should = raise the children of the next generation so that you might instill some = of the values you see missing now. =20 I must disagree with the theory that this is somehow related to a lack of = a sense of history. It seems to me that there may be a little too much = sense of history in the Balkans. What I see as a parent is that too often people are not involved in the = lives of those around them. There is no sense of community in raising our = families. Barbara Kingsolver wrote an anecdote about the difference = between playgrounds in the U.S. and Italy. When a child falls from a = swing in Italy all the moms run to help it up. When a child falls in the = U.S. all the moms look around for that childs mother to help it. This is = very simplified, but as someone who has spent my share of time at = playgrounds I can say this is true. In addition, and here is the kicker, = if you do reach out to the fallen child you will get a negative "mind your = own business" reaction. This has got to stop. It is time to mind each = others children. I feel confident that there are plenty of parents who = knew those two boys for many years now saying things like they knew the = had problems, etc. Why didn't they speak up?=20