Re: Me and my macaroni dream is so unreal
AntiUtopia@aol.com
Sat, 07 Aug 1999 12:48:19 -0400 (EDT)
In a message dated 8/7/99 12:07:34 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
lost_hopes@hotmail.com writes:
<< I've been sixteen for a while.
-Carl >>
Good. That's a good point of view for 16. When you stop being 16 (and many
of us don't do that until we hit at least 30 :) ) it'll become clear that the
quickest way to be disillusioned with relationships is to expect too much
from them.
SHEESH I could reallllly run with this one :).
On the woman's side, I've most often seen them put off by men who "make them
their religion," because they're a bit uncomfortable up there on a pedestal,
don't really respect you're POV of them (being inaccurate), and don't really
feel like you know them for who they are. That is, if they're the least bit
intelligent and mature. If not, they'll jump into the relationship with legs
wide open simply because you're a boost to their ego. After not too long,
however, they'll lose respect for you.
And you'll resent her for being, well, herself :) In other words, not a
goddess.
The best way to go into relationships is to see her for who she is, you for
who you are, and for the two of you to be best friends. Plenty of romance
within this context too :) But on a much more solid foundation.
Good luck :) I know this is meaningless, and you won't appreciate a word of
it until after you quit being 16.
Jim