Re: Mr. Antolini
AntiUtopia (AntiUtopia@aol.com)
Fri, 05 Dec 1997 16:15:10 -0500 (EST)
In a message dated 97-12-05 12:20:53 EST, you write:
<< A few days ago, I read a post from someone who mentioned a former
Bananafish who had left the list because dicussing something that was so
personal to her had become too painful. At the time, I didn't really
understand what she meant by that, but after reading the post that follows
this comment, I am beginning to see what how that could have happened and
wonder if I shouldn't follow her example and end my brief association with
this list as well.
Peggy
>>
Sorry you feel that way, think you're taking a minor disagreement waaay too
seriously. Really. It's not that big a deal to me. Get five people in a
room reading the same work and you're bound to get five different readings.
They argue and fuss awhile, come to some consensus on some issues, remain
totally in disagreement on others, and learn more about not only the opinions
of others, but their own as well in the process.
I really prefer talking to someone who disagrees with me for that reason. I
learn a lot more from someone I disagree with than from someone I agree
with--and by focusing on the disagreement I see things I hadn't before. It's
not personal on this side. I'm very, very sorry if somehow it came across
that way, and I appreciate the time you've taken to respond.
An earlier post (earlier for me, I think sometimes I get them in a bit of a
random order) asked,
<<first of all, i do not believe that mr. antolini's gesture was part of a
supressed homosexual urge. secondly, even if it was, is that so wrong? >>
heh...WONDERFUL comments. On my side, the morality of the discussion is a non
issue...it's not the point of the narrative.
Jim