Subject: Re: bananafish-digest V1 #469
From: Jim Rovira (jrovira@drew.edu)
Date: Tue Jan 15 2002 - 09:27:47 GMT
That's funny, I couldn't imagine who exactly Suzanne was talking about,
because no single person seems to post to this list that much more than
anyone else. I see a group of about 5-6 posters who regularly have
something to say, and they seldom agree with one another. This list is far
less dominated by a single voice than most others I've been on.
Suzanne -- I think you're still missing the point about loving other
people. It doesn't mean empowering the assholes. Sometimes the best thing
you can do for someone is to tell them to go screw off. But if you do that
with their best interests in mind, and not your own sense of hurt feelings,
you do it a lot more effectively and meaningfully -- not only for them, but
for yourself.
Jim
Scottie Bowman wrote:
>
> It doesn’t take a five year course in mind-reading
> to detect a hidden agenda of hurt in Suzanne’s post.
> Whatever her underlying reason for walking out,
> I think she’s being a little unkind to will, whose
> domination of the list seems to me wholly benign.
>
> But why walk out at all? I’ve only ever unsubscribed
> from a couple of lists & that was because of extreme
> boredom or because the contributions had virtually
> dried up. Never in high dudgeon or with shrapnel
> wounds. I couldn’t bear not to know what was going
> on in my absence.
>
> It’s only a mailing list, for Crissake: a new form of long
> distance bridge or poker where the only thing you can
> lose is a pile of Monopoly money. Not like brain surgery
> or a hot afternoon in the Plaza de Toros.
>
> Scottie B.
>
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