Subject: RE: My So Called Life & Salinger
Matthew_Stevenson@BAYLOR.EDU
Date: Fri May 09 1997 - 23:14:29 GMT
ok, had to cut my last post short cuz the computer lab was shutting down. who
ever heard of a computer lab that quits at 10pm? anyway . . .
>I went to a pretty progressive college and very early on realized that it
>helps to strip sex of all the cultural baggage and see it for the paradigm
>that it is, which means the symbolic union on two people FIRST, and THEN
>start to take into account the emotional aerobics, the possible familial
>displacements going on, the baggage from previous relationships that are
>projected on you, and all the other layers that make up what we know as
>rumpy-pumpy.
again, i agree, sort of. you should see it as a union of two people (two soul's
if you will) FIRST, but be sure you make it to the THEN. we don't live in a
utopian world where the absolute happiness of the people around you is your
biggest goal. if we did, we wouldn't need to worry about the THEN. but we do.
>
>I'm currently sketching out blueprints for a huge essay I want to write
>about "love" because it's endlessly fascinating to me how the times we're
>living in right now a lot of the traditional notions of "love" and
>"sexuality" are changing dramatically, specifically homosexual, yet it's
>much more "homo" than it is "sexual"...ala what Ellen Degeneres' partner
>was talking about: it's about sensibilities, it's about soul exchanges.
>(Take me for example, I have a very gay sensibility with a lot of things
>(not all), yet I'm not gay. So what is it that defines what is "gay" and
>"straight" as far as tastes are concerned (musical, movies, literature,
>style, fashion, etc. etc.)? It has very little, if anything, to do with sex
>itself, it's more about the acceptance that a soul best suited to you could
>not be of another gender. And the implications are going to be devastating
>to the mainstream. Shake society right off it's foundation.
definitely sounds interesting.
In all honesty, yes. :) Ive done it to friends on the phone and had great
conversations in pubs and bars about sex and everything else. Talking about
"it", their sex life, my sex life, other peoples sex life <g>, what have
you. Some people are shocked by my openess, I am not afriad to ask
questions nor am I afraid to answer about anything (except intimate
details).
ttfn.
Lisa
a sure sign of self-acceptance, that.
i'm glad we can talk about stuff like this with the assumption that everyone
privy to the discussion will respond with sincerity. but i still don't think i
could talk to faces with this sort of frankness. a sure sign of repression,
that.--matt
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