Re: Burning Pain

AntiUtopia@aol.com
Fri, 05 Nov 1999 16:37:00 -0500 (EST)

Japhe --

Trust me.  Trust the voice of a 35 year old man who has some wide experience with women and relationships (direct and indirect).  And who has been married for quite some time.

Get away from this woman.  She needs you to, no matter what you or she may say.  You need to, no matter what you feel.  You are undermining any future you may have with her by being with her now.  Her vacillation with you is due to the fact that she is actually ambivalent about leaving her husband and feels guilty about being with you.  

Tell her that you care for her and will be there when she is ready for a new relationship -- some time after the actual divorce.

I know so much about this, in fact, that I know you won't listen.

I also know you will wind up very hurt.

Jim