Scottie, believe me. If I were interfering with a happy family or if I were barging in on an exaggeratedly unhappy family, I would feel probably feel guilty. Sure, there's a chance that she's lying to me about how bad her situation is. Maybe her present job as a social intervener for abused families really isn't as shitty as it seems when she conferences with grandparents who smile at their little grandkids during a family meeting, suggesting that it's alright, she's just an intruder on their lives and once she leaves they can go on with their 'normal' lives again. But I don't think so. Her husband doesn't beat her or abuse her child, but he's an esentially dead, selfish prick. Her job sucks, she feels like an enabler (someone who allows abusive situations to continue) because she is enforced by law to ignore situations that aren't obviously detrimental. She wants to move in with me when I move out there and contract social services for the government, and I'm encouraging her to do that because her present situation and all of its bullshit complications implied is very much harmful to her. Whether I may harm her more is left to be said, but she and her child have to leave what they're currently entrenched in. And Lauren, I am also a child of divorced parents. My fatehr tells me stories about how he saw my alcoholic mother with a strange man at the movie theatre a month after they divorced. This must have been hard for him. What hurt us was the fact that my father hated my mother and mother hated my father. They couldn't speak with each other. When I was in Grade seven and eight, I was sure that my father was goingto kill us kids because of the alimony payments. Everyone gets a little fucked up from a divorce. Dozens of eggs get cracked. It fucking sucks, in other words. But the party responsible has to ensure that these damages are kept to a minimum. I have plans and so does she. She's an independent person but being loved helps her and it does me, too. I'm sorry I brought this up. > How about the little three year old girl & what the hard, > unavoidable statistics say about the children of divorced > parents? What about her burning pain? > > Scottie B. > > ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com