Re: Burning Pain
jason varsoke (jjv@caesun.msd.ray.com)
Wed, 17 Nov 1999 15:11:59 -0500 (EST)
On Thu, 11 Nov 1999, Scottie Bowman wrote:
> Jason,
>
> I'm damned sure there are many, many loving
> step parents who have made all the difference
> in this wide world to their adopted children.
> And there must be SOME children who are glad
> their parents separated. (Though, at a purely
> anecdotal level I can't think of any that I've
> known personally .)
>
> And I wouldn't believe any statistics that claimed
> to pay proper attention to the innumerable
> variables operating in each individual family.
>
> However, coincidentally, & never forgetting
> the crudeness inherent in all these reports, it
> so happens that this very week the Children's
> Society of Great Britain published their survey
> of the more than 100,000 children who run away
> from home each year in these islands. The rate
> where one parent was not the biological parent
> was THREE times greater than in traditional families.
>
> For what that may be worth - & bearing in mind
> again, as I say, the enormous differences that will
> exist between one particular family & another.
>
> Scottie B.c
Thanks Scottie. Do the statistics also give the likelyhood of a
Single-Parented child runaway? Also, do you know anything in particular
about the difficulty for step-fathers in relating to their step-children?
Can you recommend any good books on the topic, maybe in the self-help
genre? I understand when a male gorilla takes over the alpha-male
position from another he kills all the children of the previous male.
Reports indicate that the step-gorillakins smell wrong to him. My source
mentioned that step-fathers receive strong desires to do harm to their
step-children if they don't smell compatible. Any word on this?
I know this sounds pretty hoaky, but that's why I'm asking before I
proliferate this madness.
-j