At 11:13 AM 10/28/97 -0800, you wrote: >WILL HOCHMAN wrote: > >> French talks about the differences between "phony" and "nice" > >Of all the antonyms I could have thought of for "phony" I would never have >thought "nice" would be one of them. Guess that's because in my own way I >always saw "niceness" or "decency" as the sheep's clothing that phoniness >wears. And of all the truly "real" people I've ever known, the first word >you'd think to describe them would not be "nice." Maybe hysterical, pensive, >insightful, articulate, analytical, wary, cynical, beatific, rapturous, >jubilant....but not merely "nice." That's like saying that Bob Dylan is >"good." > >Malcs > The older I get the more I value "nice". I know it sounds insipid as in "have a nice day" or "he is a nice guy". But nice means that you are thinking of the other person or that you are treating someone else as you know you would like to be treated. God knows there is not enough of that around. all those other things that Malcolm mentioned are great also, but I do not think of nice as being mere. jude