Re: Psychology of a hype

David S (david@cybermail.net)
Thu, 07 Aug 1997 19:13:26 -0800 

>Its simple. throughout histry, and especially concerning about women/men
>issues, women have been placed in these pedstal roles that require us to
>do very and sundry things, and still be perfect. While I don't advoated
>*that*, what I have seen is that while *some* men say "yes, this is true,
>womens media is raping htem blindless" these same men have no problem
>going to their store and buying playboy/hustler what have you. See the
>contradiction. WHile your telling your gf that she "shouldnt wear makeup"
>or "she shouldn't worry abot who hshe is, because you love her just the
>way she is", by buying such mags gives her the illusion that your lying
>(cos if she was so damn wonderful why would you be buying htese magazines
>in the first place.

I guess men do that... but I don't think *most* men do it... or even close
to most.  And I know I don't.... cuz I don't buy those magazines.  :)
And I tell her not to wear make up because I don't LIKE it.  What's wrong
with that? She makes me shave every day too... cuz she doesn't like the
stubble. I don't see that as her trying to "opress" me or anything.

>
>> Aw heck, Malcs already said this stuff, and better.
>
>Well gosh beave, its called reading my mail in order that its sent. And I
>didn't see Malcs mail till soemthing like 25 messages down.

Sorry.  I didn't mean Malcs already said what you were saying. I meant he
already said what *I* was trying to say... and I felt kinda dumb trying to
say it, when it had already been said better.   :)

>> Btw, my gf IS 6' tall (which I don't like) and I beg her every day not to
>> put on any goddam makeup.  Can't stand the stuff.
>
>First off, what do you have against women 6' tall?

I don't like it because I am only 5'8".  It's some kind of silly male
insecurity thing, I admit that, but I can't help it.

>Secondly, you *dont* like her being tall, you *dont* like or dont *want*
>her to read female magazines, and you *dont* like her to wear makeup. So,
>why are you dating her if you *dont* like so much already?

I'm dating her because there is a lot of stuff I *do* like about her. Those
things weren't what we were talking about though.

>Me thinks you got a control issue going on. If you are so hot for honesty,
>why don't you let the girl have some rope instead of pulling her leash in
>so quick. And also, your giving her the EXACT same message that she *isnt*
>okay by controlling or telling her what she can and can not do.

Not a control issue. Just OPINIONS. Yeesh, where'd you get this idea?
Telling her I don't like makeup is "pulling her leash"? I disagree with
that. I I'm giving her the message that I like the way she *is* rather than
that I like the way she is with artificially colored whale blubber (or
whatever that stuff is made of) on her face.  :)


ObSalinger:  Just saw "Six Degrees of Seperation" the other day.  Loved
that speech by Will Smith about _Catcher_. I still don't understand how
anyone could be inspired to violence by the book though. Was he saying that
people felt justified in killing other people because they're all phonies?
Or what?  Did people take the "I shoot people in this hat" line seriously,
and believe that Holden was actually a killer?


--David S--


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